When I came home last night with the kids, he was very down. He asked me how my evening was, and I said I had a fun time. I asked him the same thing, and he shrugged his shoulders and looked real sad and said, "No different than usual."
I was thinking about your sitch the other day, tvs. I'm thinkin' from his POV. All he has is lies, hiding, unattractive married GF, still has poor health, doesn't feel good a lot, and sleeping terrible.
If he thinks at all about you--you're bubbly, cheerful, social, nothing to hide, sleeping in the big bed, healthy, loving, great mom.
No wonder he's so miserable.
I think the comment about the flowers is just him trying to get under your skin. I remember one time when the boys were little I had beautiful flowers on the kitchen table and H came in and leaned over and said there was a little spot I had missed on the floor when cleaning it. Grrrrr!!!!
If you have the strength to continue, I think you are heading in a good direction. He has a lot of things to work through and he needs to see that beautiful and loving prize in his face every day to remind him what he is missing!
Hope the yoga is the prescription you needed tonight! rH
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
