Its all me, me, me!

[mrtwopointfour]

This is an improvement in your M that you want to see. This is good. Now I think you should ask yourself, what can you do to get here? Yes, you cannot control W, but why doesn't she sit in same room with you at night? Is she uncomfortable with you bacause you then try to engage her in conversation? You can control that. You can also take actions to reduce pressure on her, etc. Then if you W sits in the same room, this is a baby step that your actions are working.

This example is a true goal of mine, but its not a simple one. I think mainly its because she wants to prove that this is happening, and this is real. To me and herself. But also to get space away from me, which I respect. To begin with after BD she did sit in the same room, however that soon changed. I do wonder if its because she can sit and communicate online, be it with friends or OM. I know she still does spend time online, and talking to a lot of people by messaging. But I never see her with her phone in her hand, maybe she is telepathic

I'd like to think that she is not spending with me, and also moved out of the bedroom because it would be too easy for her to start to enjoy being with me, or we may end up ML (which is a good 5 months since now). But thats just wishful thinking on my behalf.

However, having skipped past your point. Yes I see what you mean. Its about things I can control, which can create baby steps in M.