[quote=bblake1968 Pardon the cynicism in me, but, B.S...
If he always wanted to be monogamous, he would've found a way to do so. And in doing so come to grips with his problems without being mean and cruel in the process.
I could VERY much be wrong here, but, it looks to me like he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear. On the surface, from an outsider perspective, this looks a lot like more manipulation, but, what do I know...?
Either way, T, you are a very strong lady and I know you'll do what you have to in order to protect yourself and your kids. [/quote]
I agree with you. He would have to do some serious changing for me to ever see him as nothing but a manipulative person at this point. I see no M future. Just that we are parents together. Maybe one day we could be friends...emphasis on the maybe. Right now I just think the worst and if he surprises me, then there we go. And whenever I feel wobbly...I read the texts I took pics of. Clears things right up, hahaha.
I know that the NC has really thrown him for a loop. He said he was talking to the IC about never feeling safe. He said as stupid as it sounds he is trying to create one for himself now. He said the councilor asked if he felt it was a person or a place. He said the only person in the world he has ever felt close to safe with was me.
Well, sorry bud. That ship has sailed. I'm all about actions today. Bet a million dollars he starts blaming me again when this little speech doesn't get me to let him move back in. Or whatever he thinks. I know when he was over sunday helping me with yardwork I had gotten teary about this baby not having me at home with him. I walked away, cried. Started mowing. He walked up and said "I need to you to know that I haven't given up on us." He saw the look on my face (Um...but I'm done.) and goes "you don't need to say anything. I just need you to know."
Yea. I. Me. Me...me...me
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D