LRT - Dealing with WAW Affair

[needgrace]

RT,
think what you are doing is working too, it sounds like W is noticing. i think you are really amazing!

i also like that you are looking deep into yourself.. as you indicated, controlling behavior is an attempt to protect ourselves, to stay at a safe distance instead of being vulnerable.. what fears and hurts are under that behavior and how did the relational dance with your W impact the behaviour? (For example, I would feel more need to control when W did X,Y or Z bc my fear was that X might happen)

lean into all your feelings right now to build more self awareness and more space between the feeling and the reaction..

another good question to think about are what complaints if any W had with your M?

and keep GALing.. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((RT))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))