When do you get to the point of telling the WAS what they need to work on? There are definitely things that made me stressed and unhappy in our M. I have never really brought them up (probably part of our demise).
And that is a $20,000 question. I have acknowledged my shortcomings. Addressed. Identified others. My W? Not so much...
The biggest problem I see in these issues, whomever is the WAS seems to get by with a get out of jail free card while. Certainly the WAS is responsible for a portion of the M problems - in many cases. Just because they are the first to pull the trigger seems to mean the LBS gets to do all the changing? Do they ever have to come to grips with their part in what happened in their M? Is it fair? Is it equitable?
Really, it doesn't matter. From what I've seen the LBS is the one who, if it is their desire to do so, make the changes necessary to start healing the M. Eventually, the WAS will have to come to grips with whatever their part was if they truly want the M to work. That will take a while since in most cases they don't even know what they want 6, 12 or 18 months after BD.
It all really comes down to how patient a LBS wants to be, how much effort they wish to put forth and how IMPORTANT it is to them to save the M. This is not easy stuff. If it was, Michelle and many others would be out of work...
