lol... sorry, I chuckled hard when you said he tells you that he wants to keep a flexible schedule and then you ask him how a flexible schedule might look like...
ummmm... flexible... I think his answer is appropriate...
But I do get your frustration in that.
I am glad you are going to consider simply creating a schedule that works for you and letting him work around that. That can be your boundary to enforce.
How would you enforce pick up and drop off times?
I have seen the movie "the Miracle Worker" and it is very inspirational.
I also agree with you that wanting to help someone does not always imply co-dependence. Our happiness is NOT dependent on their happiness. Although it can feel really good to know that someone that you supported has positive growth.
So lets talk about "responsible" and "detached".
I'm guessing you aren't detached from this guy, yet. I get wanting to help people, it is certainly one of my motivations for being here on this site and also the people that I support and encourage growth in, in real life.
It has been a hard lesson for me to learn that some times, the best way to support someone is to give it up to God.
Why do you want the responsibility to help this man, other than the fact that he is your D4's father?
