Just to be clear, I understand that you said you've been distancing and detaching from him over the last while.
Do you understand that kind of behaviour can APPEAR to be passive-aggressive attempts to manipulate others? That could be how it appears, to D4's dad.
If he thinks you are trying to manipulate him, and it DOES appear that way in your posts, he is very likely going to continue to resist.
Until he feels you are no longer pressuring him... until he feels that you are actually listening to him... and his needs...
This had NOT occurred to me. I guess no matter what I do, I'm screwed. I most definitely have felt like I have been misunderstood. Maybe this is what is going on....can you elaborate of what I have done and how it can seem passive-aggressive and manipulative?
I thought it was simple. What do you want? Okay, here is is, Happy now? No? Why not? What's it going to take for us to each live our separate lives in peace and our limited contact to ust be civil?
You have my attention.....maybe you have something there...
What do you think I should have done instead of trying to honor his boundaries and do what he said he wanted me to do?
I still think this is related to his emotional problems. How can any NORMAL person be so complicated?
