Good advice. I felt this today as i was thinking about those flowers and how she reacted, part of me was proud that I made it through with out saying anything. The other part of me wanted some recognition for doing something nice and thoughtful. I am split between the two at different times but I just keep telling myself that I did the right thing and to be PATEINT and I will see.
I am trying real hard to do just what you said. Do it, say it and forget it.
So here is a little something new that just happened. I asked her to lunch yesterday and she wasnt ready and she did say maybe tomorrow. So I just called her to see whats up, asked her to go, she hesitated and asked what for, "if its to hash things out I dont want to". I just smiled..... I said. "I havent brought anything up for quite awhile and Im not going to. Its in your hands and when your ready you can bring it up". She was silent for a moment. Then she said let me get a few things done and I will call you. I asked her to call before a certain time so if she wasnt going I could go early and beat the rush.
It seems to me that she has obviously thought about us recently....very recently. Shes not ready to discuss the situation for whatever reason..hers obviously but I dont know the why not. My opinion is that she has seen good things from me, has been reminded why she married me. But she wont pull the trigger yet..... PATIENTS again i think will win this one....
After thinking about it for a bit, maybe I am wrong, maybe she knows that this has to be bugging me, even though Im not showing it. Maybe she knows its time we move on and get on with our marriage but doesnt know how to talk about it? My wife isnt the talking kind. I have to see her actions in order to tell what is going on with her. I have thought about this and I was thinking that she probably wouldnt say anything if it was left up to her. I figured that since I am not going to approach this any time soon, that I would just see her at some point and notice she put her ring back on and then I could just go up to her and hug her. Im the talker in the relationship. I am the one who tries to close things out through discussions and conversations. Maybe she thinks because i am the way I am, that she has to talk about it to move forward.
This is the type of stuff that confuses the heck out of me. Any suggestions????
