I told him last month that if I couldn't have a good relationship, I didn't want a relationship at all and that is when I backed up as far as I could. It seems to have blown up in my face, so I have to try a different strategy...Rather than "let go of the rope" I am going to hold on and my mission is to be to transform this relationship into a "good" relationship.
I told him to "Let go or get dragged" because I am not going to continue to try to cater to his neuroses. I am going to do everything I can to fight for him, like Annie Sullivan fought for Helen Keller. Helen Keller's family had "dropped the rope" but it ended up not being the best approach for anyone.
He really has some serious phobia to me now. I told him I am looking up about "exposure therapy" and told him we should work on that since he doesn't want to get professional help. My therapist says I should not expect him to cooperate with me, and I don't expect it, but I will try anyway. I have to do something. He is really suffering and I feel like he has been crying out to me for help, in his own way.
I just want us to both have peace and our daughter is must 4, so I want the next 14 years to be more pleasant than the last couple.
