I want him to not go out of his way to play childish games with me.
I want him to treat me with common courtesy.
I want him to communicate with me in a respectful and timely manner in matters concerning out child.
I want him to not have an anxiety attack every time he gets a text message from me. That's just sick.
I used to want us to be able to be able to be together for special occasions, like birthday parties, recitals, her wedding, but now I don't care if we can't ever be in the same room together. I am not going to fight for that.
We started out co-parenting and it went well. In reality, we are mostly parallel parenting, but it still isn't working. Even in parallel parenting, there is some contact required.
I am not new to coparenting/parallel parenting. I have 2 teenagers with my ex-husband and I have never had the kind of problems I am having with this other man. My exhusband and I don't have problems communicating with each other or attending school functions together, etc. I have not had to jump through hoops with my exhusband like I have with this other guy.
It is just annoying and inconvenient when I need to communicate with him and he plays games. I don't want to play games back with him. I could have easily left him stranded last week and not have been there to pick up my daughter when he probably was expecting to drop her off. I had to take my other daughter to a dentist appointment and I needed to know if he wanted me to get my younger daughter either before or after the dental apppointment. But he didn't want to reply to my text.
I just want him to act like a normal, mature adult. Stop the game playing. Recognize he has emotional issues and deal with them so they don't stress him out and stress me out.
Even with "parallel parenting", there is contact and a "relationship" YES, I want that parenting relationship to be improved.
I haven't figured out what his problem is. But he's got a problem.
