We moved to a new house in May. S12 just started middle school and was having issues. I'd come home almost every night and W was angry with S12. I think I just let the emotions take me over rather than take control of the emotions. I have since read DB and DR. I'm on mediation so it might take awhile to get my story out.
In early January, W got a new phone. We were at a friend's house, and I wanted to see the phone to figure out how it worked. While I was browsing features, a message arrived from OM that said "I want to love you immediately so...". W grabbed the phone because it beeped indicating a text. She typed some kind of reply (like "no texting right now?") and then gave the phone back. I was too naive and trusting in our marriage vows at that time to think W would have an A.
Started counseling in January. W suggested counseling in December, but said I had to pick one. First few sessions were all crying and talking about feelings. She brought up new problems that I didn't even know existed. She had issues with counseling when she was young and hates the idea. Money was tight and she didn't want the cost either. She would still go though.
