I really like the part about meeting anger or indifference with love. That really sums it up. A lot of people think detachment is growing cold and distant, that's not it at all. It's taking control of our own destiny and detaching from our spouse's emotional roller coaster. Some say to treat your spouse like you would a friendly neighbor. If your neighbor was mad, sad, depressed you might try to cheer them up or give them a shoulder to lean on, but it probably wouldn't make you mad, sad, depressed. You'd be their support, but you wouldn't let their negative state affect your PMA. In fact it's your PMA that helps bring them out of their funk. You should strive to be like this with your W too. Make sense?
I like this additional insight/perspective! Thanks AS
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
