Saturday is my birthday and Monday was my Dad's 75th. My Dad lives two hours away and my sister and her family are coming up for the weekend, so the plan was for my W and I to go to dinner, just us, on Friday night, and after my D's volleyball games Saturday, to go to Dad's for dinner.
Received an email from W last night that D's games are almost two hours the other direction and last game isn't until 4, and we are taking and bringing home another girl, so she said "I can take D and you can spend the whole day with your Dad!" like I would be excited about it. I sent a reply "I am sorry to hear that, are (other girl's) parents out of town?" and didn't hear back, so I just called. I asked when other games are and whether we could leave early and have another parent bring home other girl. We don't have to be at my dad's until 6, so we could do this. She was irritated and said now she will have to make a bunch of calls. I expressed that I was really looking forward to spending my birthday with her and D and that everyone else will also be disappointed if she isn't there. I also said I understand this is a hassle for her and not ideal, but if we can figure it out, it is important to me. She said we can talk about it later (ie. counseling?).
The reality is, youth sports has taken a major toll on our relationship through separation. My S and D had tournaments almost every weekend over past 5 months and we usually were splitting up for them.
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
