Struggling and need help

[reachingHigher]

Hi CB,

Just to add a little to the discussion.

My H went to IC October of 2011. She tried to get us to go through the Gottman book at home but it was too intense. We finally gave up.

Then, in June 2012, a few days after my H said he was "never coming back" he agreed to one MC session. He talked nonstop for 45 minutes--what he liked about me and what he didn't like about me was included in the convo. I just listened and did my best not to cry.

The C suggested she thought we may be heading for D. That was quite upsetting to me.

It wasn't really MC but it did give me a little window into his mind and after the session I wrote down the things he said and referred to them often. It gave me a place where I could see where I, too, had failed in the M and I had a gauge of what I could work on.

So....you have the MC scheduled. It may provide sn opportunity for you to work on things alone, even if not together.

Let us know how it works out today.