Its all me, me, me!

[Grizz]

"Goal 2: Detach, Relax, and treat W like a friend or close neighbour. I need to do this to find my humour again and become the person I once was. When I am at work I am funny, relaxed and people listen and respect what I say. When with W I am walking on egg shells, worrying about how to be, not finding my humour, and generally on edge about everything she says. A few weekends ago i said something without thinking about it, and W laughed like she had not done in months. When I try too hard, it comes across as fake and unfunny. Detaching will actually help me with this. I am almost there, but living with W pulls me back in daily - its a constant battle, one that I am determined to win. This will also help me stop thinking about what W will be up to when she goes away or goes out, and who she is really meeting / staying in a hotel with. This is going to be difficult one to achieve, probably the hardest. "


This is the very thing that I have difficulty with. I could post this on my thread and it would sound like my story. You seem like you have come a long way. It is so hard to detach when you are living together, I know. My hurt, which sometimes is projected as anger, really prevents me from trying to be friendly with her.

Keep working on yourself. I know i need to. It already sounds like you are heading in the right direction.