Thank you for all of the advice. You are right about the anger, only I suppose I would rather not act on anger at all. Well that is my long term goal at least. We haven't spoken to a councillor or any kind. Money has been super tight. A lot of details regarding how things would actually work were lost in the shuffle of just making the S happen so my W would be able to stop blaming me. So we could move forward.

You all have good ideas about possible adjustments to how we are sharing S. Regardless of our emotional conflict we do both want our S to be happy. I definitely have no desire to drag him into the middle. Also, you are right that using his negative feelings to make my W feel bad is something I have been contemplating. Somethig that clearly is selfish. Thanks for the honest eye opener.

Me-36 W-31
M-7
S-5
BD Dec/12- things were wrong for awhile, head was in the sand

Seeking means: to have a goal
Finding means: to be free, to be receptive, to have no goal