I think the thing that gets confusing here is moving forward vs HOPE.
Yes! I guess that's a hardest part...The "how"...how can I move forward when I am still hoping? I question that to myself often times.
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As you know as long as there is an OW, he is still deep in REPLAY.
Speaking of the OW...I tried to act as if there's no OW exist...No one but me knows about the OW.......He asked me not to tell our son yet (aged 21)because he don't want him to be distracted with his studies right now (because we experienced when H left the first time S was devastated and wasn't able to concentrate with his studies)...so I agreed not to tell him yet! He will tell S when the exams or this semester is finish. Even H's sister (my SIL) and other relatives doesn't have any idea. He will tell everyone then (he said)after S knows it. Besides, he said...maybe its not necessary to tell because who knows the affair is done/finito before they know it! (what? are you serious?...does it make any difference???...Anyways,for now his affair is our "little secret" wheww! Is this right for agreeing in his idea of keeping about this? Or should I demand to tell honestly and to come up open about the whole thing to everyone. It's like he is playing "safe" and keeping himself "clean" to the eyes of everybody.
