MLC step by step...what's next?

[Lilith]

Thank you Snodderly for your quick response! I really appreciate it!

You must develop a thick skin, dig deep for patience, understanding and compassion because the mlc trip is not for the faint of heart.

Exactly!I think I have lots of patience and understanding...it's being tested again and again but I also have mixed emotions about these especially when friends and family keeps telling me "Do not put down yourself too much and don't allow yourself to be a doormat or fooled around etc." ....sometimes I just don't know how to react to these.

The best thing you can do is keep the focus on you and your family and allow God to work on your h. Learn to live your life as if your h may not return. Read as much as you can on this forum in order to have a better understanding of what your h is going through, as well as what you are experiencing.

Yes! I am trying to do all these...focus on me and my family, reach out to friends, learn and read books and forums as much as I can...and pray and pray.

Please be sure to take care of yourself and the most important thing...protect your assets, i.e., joint accounts, etc.

With regards to our financial situations/arrangements...As of this writing everything stays the same. We have talked about it 2weeks ago..and for now we agreed to keep everything as it is.

Btw, It's his birthday this coming Friday...I bought a present for him (supposedly coming from me and my son)but I have a second thought about it 'coz my son bought already his own present for his Dad and friends told me why should I bother giving him??? "Do you think he will appreciate it?"...I really don't know!?....Is it a good idea to give him a present for his birthday?

Ok...this is all for now...I will surely get back for more questions and advice :-)

Thank you very much!!!

Lilith