What if we don't want H to follow...I seem to be stuck w/him more as I display this. It does though seem to follow the stages of his MLC (I see H in the acceptance stage revisiting all stages one more time), so could it be just timing that we question our wants right as they enter their new phase, keeping us on opposite sides of our progress?
In my own experience (such as it is) no, this is not coincidental that you question your wants etc.
Remember that a relationship is like two people dancing on a see-saw. As one moves one way, the other compensates in an effort to maintain "balance" (of some sort). Just because they have gone to la-la land, doesn't mean you aren't still doing that dance in some form or fashion.
As you regain your own balance, you begin to question why you have a "partner" for this dance. I think it's very natural to question. I look at some of these posts and wonder, "why is it you stayed, exactly?" And then I wonder if you happened to write down why you stayed back at the beginning. Just for comparison.
Couple of thoughts.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
