I see your point about the manipulation. Maybe in a way it is a manipulation to end the affair. My wife has an addict personality, its a defense mechanism for her. The affair is an addiction. If I continue to pay for her cell phone, pay for her financial needs what is going to stop her from having her cake and eating it to. I honestly feel like she takes advantage of it. If Im always there for all her needs that she had for me as a husband, financial and helping with other things, but she doesnt have to commit why would she ever give that up. In a way I feel that she has no respect for me and I need to say "if your going to have this affair Im not going to support you as a husband. That role is done." Maybe that is manipulation but if it gets her to focus on what she is losing than what's wrong with that?
