WAW is having affair, anyone with some advice?

[cbtdad]

I know what you are going through man! My wife has not old anyone close to both of us about the OM. Her best friend and horse trainer know, but that's it on her side.
My mom, therapist and a guy I get great advise from know on my side and that's it.
Her parents, her brother(who I love with), mutual friends, no one else knows!
It's so aggravating because I feel like she is having her cake and eating it too.
Not for long though! I won't sit by waiting on her while she tests the waters.