I hope y'all find a good solution Moth.
W and I have a 3 and half year old and hate his for him more ham anything. We can both certainly see it in his behavior and emotions. He is much better behaved when both of us are with him.
When wife and I separated we had to come to custody agreement for court.
My opinion at that age is that son should be with mom majority of time. Just my opinion. So we agreed on me getting him every other weekend and me being able to see him whenever I want basically.
So far that has been great. It has made detaching extremely difficult though. But it's been best case possible for son. And that's what I care about most right now


M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it