Although I understand you wanting to try to temp check your W by watching FB, etc. It will dry you nutz. You really should stop.
I also do want to put out there, it is likely your W will unload on you in counselling. Try to stick it out as long as you can.
I lasted three sessions. Prior to the third, I asked my W if she was going to see if we could save the M or if she was just doing it to prove that the M is over. She indicated it was the latter.
That said, the counsellor may ask what the two of you want out of counselling. That's hard to hear a spouse is only going to stay civil to co-parent but not to save the M.
Anyhow, as long as your W keeps going, that's great. Good opportunity to work on being non-reactive.
