I was just catching up on your thread, and I'm very sorry at what your H is putting you and your children through. To me, the hurt they cause our children is the worst part of all of this.
I'm glad you got the restraining order, don't hesitate to call cops if he violates it. He might be living in la la land, but he's about to get a dose of reality.
You may not be able to charge him with child abuse, but in my state if a neighbor, teacher, coach, etc. calls to make a claim, it must be investigated. If your H keeps making a scene like that, it could only be a matter of time before he's reported.
Thinking of you
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."