It sounds like pursuing...time and space is your only friend right now! Again, you're sending texts, he's reacting, you're reacting - get off that train and live in your own skin for awhile.
I know it's hard but it does get easier. I'm 10 months out now and it's taken me this long to be able to look at my situation from the outside (as best as I'm able to). You have to let those feelings of rejection and abandonment simmer down - in both of you! If it never cools off, it'll never heal.
Show support when it's needed, validate when you can, but don't reach out anymore. You texting or calling him to tell him you accept or are different - doesn't really look very different to him.
