It's a win! You controlling yourself and changing your reaction is the only thing that will reach H's heart. It may not change the immediate future, but will give you a shot long term.
It must be different in your state. The first thing they do when meeting with atty in my state is to look up online to see if papers were filed by spouse. I clung to that for a few months.
Think of a reward for yourself at the end of this week. Something you can look forward to. A massage? Get yourself through this week to digest these recent changes. It's truly out of your control now and the lawyers will take over from here. Now is the time to turn your efforts inward. Hang in there!
