If you want to watch TV, do it. If you want to be somewhere else, do it. That is YOUR house, too. It will probably feel weird at first to own your territory, but try it on for size.
I get this. I just might want to be apart from H more than I want to watch tv...
Life was def easier when he was away.
Originally Posted By: Notlikingthis
I'm not in a position to give anything but encouragement and prayers to you at this point. I still need to understand MLC and behaviors before I can offer more help. Your H and mine are both cake-eaters and seem to be cut from the same cloth.
NLT you have much more to give than you think. Don't be afraid to post on other's threads because only "encouragement and prayers" are often all that is needed. And posting to others serves as good therapy to the "poster" as well as the "postee".
I don't feel my H watches me so much as simply expects me to be "there". Much as a child having a tantrum doesn't actually expect their parent to abandon them. Obviously I still offer H some sort of comfort, or security. Which is all well and good until providing that begins to effect my emotional well being.
D.Marie is soo much better at this than me lol.
Originally Posted By: I.am.Dmarie
So we hold for hope for a better future, stay on the path we know is right, hey maybe the'll follow one day!
I am still not convinced I want H to follow...
Originally Posted By: AJM
He'll let you know what he does or doesn't like. Then it's up to you how you want to handle it. I suggest gently and with a smile on your face
THIS has never been a problem for H lol - the letting me know what he does/doesn't like. Well at least the what he DOESN'T like, never been one for praise, with H its no news is good news.
And right now he wants to continue the charade of marriage, wants me firmly in the housekeeper role. There is no physical affection except if H feels he'd be more comfortable spooning then he does want that. Oh, and I am to rub what ever might hurt on him ie back, ankle etc.
So I really need to find some GAL opportunities. IDK just WHAT exactly, but I do know I am much more centered when I have "things on the go". ~ something for me to ponder!
Thank you everyone for stopping by and leaving a note!!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
And posting to others serves as good therapy to the "poster" as well as the "postee". 
