Please do not tell your h that he is in mlc. He will deny it until the cows come home. He doesn't think that there is anything wrong w/him, but we all know the signs of mlc.
So, he wants to find a place to live...don't help him. He's a grown man and he needs to face the consequences of his actions. I wouldn't pack or help him w/the move. Now, if he leaves stuff behind and it's a constant reminder, I would then pack the stuff up and put it either in the garage, shed or basement for a while.
What he's saying and doing is all part of the mlc script. I do think that once he's out of the house, you'll find that the stress of walking on egg shells will be alleviated and you'll be able to relax a bit more. No one knows just how much stress the mlcer puts on the spouse and family when they are living under the same roof until they have moved out. Just remember, you can still use db even when he's moved out. Even though he may move out, he may very well use excuses to visit the home. At some point, you will need to set boundaries, but let's wait and see if he truly does move out.
I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
