Losing Hope w/WAH

[Bluedown]

My heart breaks for you......
My wife told me 2 weeks ago that she wanted a seperation and I've been out of the house for a week. I'm an emotional wreck and feel your pain. It's hard to just walk away when you love somebody so much, you have two small children, and 13 years of life invested.
Please reach out to family and friends for some support during this time.

[Shiss]

Does anyone know of any threads where the H filed and reconciliation happened?

[GALbaby]

Check out Reaching Highers threads. She was at 11t hour and working on reconciliation now.

[Shiss]

Thank you!

[Breakdown]

Shiss, you're halfway thru your 2nd thread. You ready to work yet? So far, you have been content to react.

...decide what you want to work on....insecurity for sure, but what else?


What did you not like about your role in your M? What were your H's complaints?

[Shiss]

My husband's complaints were that my attitude was never consistent, he couldn't deal with my mood swings. I did not like those aspects of my marriage either. I'm working on my anxiety, and self acceptance as they seem to all roll together with being insecure and anxious. With all that said though, I think it's too late to save my M, but never to late to save yourself.

[labug]

Hey Shiss, I got similar complaints, you can work on all that but it is work.

You don't know if it's too late to save your M, see how your automatic thoughts jump in? You've failed before you started.

What are your goals?

[Shiss]

It's hard for me to see the positives, H has already filed, I'm expecting papers this week as that's what he told me. My goal is to be a better me, it's hard to think about working on myself right now when your world seems to be crumbling around you. Thank goodness I see my counselor today.

[Positivespin]

Shiss- YOU cant control this.....He is going to do what he is going to do.

Everything is in shambles but you need to be strong and healthy to deal with it. Right now, everything that is going to happen is going to happen- just let it play out.

What are YOUR plans for today??? Your going to see your C- What else? Do you exercise?

[Shiss]

Hi Positive, I'm at work today, then to counseling, back to work and then home. Been reading some self help books on my kindle as it's hard to concentrate. yes, I do exercise, it's still kind of cold where we are so I use my elliptical.