Recently Separated and Need Help

[azguy]

Several of your last posts have focused on what you can do to get him back. I'd suggest that this is not where you want to focus your thoughts right now, especially since you've told us you've been controlling in your R. You'll appear as pursuing and attempting to control the situation.

Instead what can you do to get the better you back? You don't need to go dark or ignore him, just don't focus on him or the R right now. Work on making yourself someone only a fool would leave. It'll help your outlook and he may be intrigued by the changes.

He may be purposely sabotaging your interactions, consciuosly or subconsciously. Be consistent! Even if he backs off he'll notice this. Hang in there, this is not a sprint.