"Does she really want me to fight back and say this is unacceptable and just hop in the bed upstairs? "
Not any more.
"Our realtor friend impressed my W, saying he did 230 pushups every morning (10 at a time). Not sure it is true..."
Obviously this bothered you enough to post. Don't let things like that get to you.
" I either ignore what she says and do it (parking) or say for example that I wanted to buy the jelly. "
Stop defending yourself about why you do the things you do. Tell her to "BACK OFF" and that she has been nothing but critical of you and you will not tolerate the constant disrespect.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
