Ok, I have a lot of stuff going around in my head as I get ready to meet stbx for a talk today.
My bywords: Serenity; Awesomeness
My keys: Breathe and think before I speak, validate.
Do not: Blurt and regret.
However, there's one thing that keeps popping up in my thoughts, like an 'attend-to-me" computer icon:
STBX told S14 recently that he's no longer living with OW.
So I'd like to get it out here.
Now, 1. I know this could be a lie (but if so, why say it?)
2. I know it doesn't really mean sh-t: OW is not the issue, his journey is. He can move out on OW and then move in with another.
3. It's most likely just a ploy to avoid paying higher CS - as we are headed to court over this in a couple weeks.
But all the same, I keep wondering if it might be a sign that he is thinking differently about things.
I can't believe OW would be happy about it, if it is true. She is a 'possessor'; she 'wears' my stbx like a trophy.
So, I know I should be focussing on me and not looking back, but this seems to be a pretty big development in the sitch.
Wondering if anyone has had something similar - I'm a great believer in the scriptedness of mlc, and for that reason would like to know what this might signify in terms of the repeating pattern that is displayed by many.
I know the obvious answer is 'who knows?'. And in any case, stbx has just taken to wearing a 'wedding' ring on his wrong hand - so that tends to suggest he isn't ready to break with her... but maybe her giving him the ring was the catalyst to make him step away.... See where my head keeps taking me?
Need some help getting back on the rails with this. I'm probably just over-thinking it because I'm nervous about this afternoon's meeting. I'm dreading it, actually.
