Let the OM thing lay for now...he isn't worth any time in your head.
Forget the fb request, she wants space right now, trying to figure out who she is independently of you maybe... I know it's annoying or/and hurtful, but it just isn't worth you stressing on it. Been there. It don't mean nothing... (from Platoon).
I would continue with vacation plans, but have no expectations...she may bail at last minute. Don't bring it up, let her or someone else. If she does bail, then act as if you are okay with it (or better yet, BE okay with it, more one-on-one time for YOU with the kids...).
Sleep...what are you doing for exercise? I had the worst time with "motor brain"...I found that weight lifting, sprinting and long walks daily plus about 10mg melatonin before bed really helped me.
Accept this sVckkky reality, sooner rather than later, focus on what YOU can do for YOU and the kids, your GAL, your friends, your work, take up some new hobbies or activities...the more you accept and back-off, and get yourself busy with YOUR life, the less damage you can possibly do if she is mlc...you can't make it go faster, but you can lengthen it by getting in her way and by getting in YOUR own way (pursuing, controlling (or trying to), acting needy, wanting attention or whatever from her, etc).
Hang in there!!! T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
