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[Notlikingthis]

I've been reading posts here and learning a great deal over the past few months since I posted last but things are beginning to change so I am again. I thought I was doing okay with all of h's crazy behavior. I've been keeping myself busy with things that keep me out of the house and out of his way as much as possible. He didn't seem to be progressing one way or the other (in a positive or negative way) until the past week. I've been processing what he's told me (which of course, I believe none of) but now he's talking about moving out. He says "it will be good for both of us". He's been talking to the OW daily, many times here at the house (most of the time he steps outside). I usually leave for an hour or so when I can tell that he talking to her. When I come back he's shocked that I would go somewhere without asking him to come along. CRAZY!!! I'm sure that you'll all tell me that I should tell him how disrespectful he's being so go ahead and blast me for being a doormat but give me some ideas on how to handle that without confrontation. During one of those conversations I overheard him trying to talk her into moving here so I know that is why he's planning on moving out. He is going back to work which I thought would be good for him but now I see that he's doing it to "fund" their new life. He wants to keep one foot in the door for now and is wooing her here with money, lies and the promise of taking care of her. Because I know her and her style of living, it will take a LOT of money to take care of her. I've made sure that I have copies of all of our financial paperwork and unless he changes the online passwords, I will have access to see what and where all of the money goes. I can't take half of it and put it in a safe place because of where it's invested right now.

I won't even repeat some of the nonsense that I've heard over the past 6 months but I think he wants to test the waters with her first before he makes any moves to end our relationship and marriage. He continues to sleep in the same bed, tells me that he loves me (less often than before, of course) and still makes reference to the near and distant future! What have I been doing? Listening to him, distancing myself as much as possible, going dim, leaving the house when he's here and when he makes his phone calls to the OW and doing what I want to do rather than sitting around waiting for him to get his act together. I'm upbeat and happy and he hates it. After all, he told me to go do what makes me happy but not to tell him about it or what I'm doing. Then he gives me the third degree when I've been gone for awhile. ????? I took a mini vacation and went on a shopping spree for a few days last month. He didn't like the fact that I was gone and told me that he missed me in texts and phone messages several times a day. I only responded once a day to them and actually had a great time relaxing, catching up on my reading and just being away from all of the drama that he and the OW have created for themselves.

Snodderly....he is "telling on himself" more often than now when he talks, is still depressed most of the time yet has some moments of elation after talking to the OW. He's following the "script" more closely than I would have ever imagined yet tells me that he's not going through a MLC and he knows what he's doing.

I'm obviously not happy about this latest announcement and need some prayers and help. He actually asked me to help him find a place to live! I haven't and I won't get involved in any way in that and told him so. So do I pack his bags and boxes for him and tell him to have a nice day or what?

Again, prayers and advice, PLEASE!