no matter what I do or say right now, she doesn't seem able to hear it from me.
This is so hard, isn't it? But it is our reality. One thing I do/did is only say things that I would say to a friend, and say them HOW I would say them to a friend, know what I mean?
I actually got one in yesterday successfully though...W was trying a new "style"...she had pulled her hair into a braid and was wearing a baseball type hat...W has NEVER been a baseball hat wearing woman, at all. I could tell she was not certain about it, kept looking at her reflection and she noticed me looking at ther. When asked I just said that it looked "cute as h3ll" and that I liked it...that got a big smile and that "look" that tells me I said the right thing...It is so touch and go in that area, always trying to "read" her correctly, but it's kinda fun sometimes.
As far as progress signs...idk, I guess I listen to W processing thoughts, trying new ways of looking at things, figuring out where old ways came from...Her tone when telling me of things, sometimes even just the simple fact that she IS communicating with me now. Like how your W shared her night out with GF and the pilot with you...bet there was a time when she wouldn't, but now she is comfy enough to share with you. There is also more "calmness" about her...the vibe in the house is better.
Hope that helps some...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
