I had certain things that I felt my W needed to do when it looked like we were reconciling. Voicing them did nothing but push her away. I think the best you can hope for is them wanting to try at all and slowly move forward from there.
Looking back now I wished I just went with what I was offered and built on that.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14