Went to kids bball tourney all weekend, 4 hours away. No real conversation all weekend (small talk, shopping, etc.). Much of this was because she invited another family to ride with us so no talk in the car, and all weekend she was with other parents as well (even sat a few seats away even though I had a seat for her at the last game, and sat a few seats away at dinner). She was able to use others as a shield all weekend.
Clear to me she is addicted to her phone. All weekend was either texting, on FB, or reading a Kindle book (easy to tell which based on hand movement). Have tried my best to not snoop, but haven't been able to stop fully. She has acted super-protective of her phone so I suspect that she is either corresponding on it about us, or just thinks I am snooping. Either way, not good.
We stopped at her parents house mid-way to drop off our dog on Friday. I asked if she told her parents about us and she said no. I took that as a positive sign she wasn't fully sure what next step is, or that she is focused on us, but would be curious what others think.
Didn't say anything about OM. More convinced now that this guy is a fantasy and embodiment of the bad-boy characters in the 50 or so similar books she has read in the past 5 months. Confirmed this with best-friends husband who confirmed it with wife (she said she knew who it was but it was just a FB fantasy. Despite assurances, worried/assuming that W now knows I asked about it).
Also, W still has not accepted my FB friend request from Thursday and hasn't said anything about it. 800 lb elephant in the room and not sure if I bring anything up? Counseling Wednesday, first time for us together. Suspect she is waiting to unload on me when we are together with a neutral 3rd party there.
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
