Thanks turtle...it will be a deal breaker, I think. I can't be married to someone who is living with someone else. I just can't. I will have to explore this further in my head and maybe as I detach more it won't matter, but any R that will occur between H and I will occur regardless of whether we are married or not.
Yes, the next few weeks will be wonderful lol! She is gone again in June, not such a great thing since it gives him a break, so to speak. I know just before she left the last time he was getting a little overwhelmed with her...so.
Yes detaching is good. Is there a pill somewhere? I have made it a promise that April and May will be about me. (well and the kids). Day one....check.
There were some really good things about me that I was developing and in increasing the R with H I found myself sliding into old behaviour. This is a good break for me too, I think, to refocus on who I want to be.
