Should I ask her to leave

[Rockwallaby]

At the start she announced she wanted to separate, she would not consider therapy, counselling or really to discuss it. Three weeks later I discovered the affair. She said it started after her annnouncement (and therefore was not really an affair because we had split!)

She has said she never felt a connection, that she was taken foregranted and had to make all the decisions in the relationship. Certainly now she feels we could never make it work.

I know she had issues around her father relationship and being in touch with her feminive side, also turning forty so I had thought an MLC. Now I think she is in fog as she will not go NC from other guy and she has already lied about seeing him when she said she would not.

five months down and she is now seeking help and looking inwards, though I think she blames me for a lot, including serving proceedings in relation to the children. I have since withdrawn and did so as a last resort because she would not make any agreement or even discuss options with me.

I need to focus on myself and let her go.