I thought I may have heard from a few other members by now
Like KD said, that's just an issue of you being on moderation. Approval takes a while and once your posts get approved they're unfortunately already older, so when they get posted your thread doesn't bump up to the top. I try to find threads like yours and post to them so it bumps them up higher. Once you're off moderation it'll bump to the top whenever you post.
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I'm not really sure how to quote so I will just copy and paste.
Click on "switch to full reply screen", then you'll have additional options. One is a quotation button, if you highlight the text and click that button it will bracket the selected text as a quote.
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We didn't have huge arguments or fights as there was no cause for us to do so, we didn't need to??
The stance the author takes is that a lack of arguments is a sign that there is poor communication. Like I said, my W and I very rarely fought. I also learned far too late that our communication was dreadful. I spent decades thinking I knew how she felt about things (because she never told me) only to find out at RetroV that I was completely wrong. When I think back to my relationships with the best communication, there were always firey fights that went along with them! So maybe he's onto something there.
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That's what my heart is hanging on to, I am really trying to be myself and be patient ..... If nothing else I am a patient women and don't give up easily.
You do need to be patient, but don't sit around waiting. Get out. Get a life for yourself. Work on your PMA (positive mental attitude). Detach from your H and give him time and space.
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Thank you for that, quite a few of my friends just don't understand how or why I would want to be friends with H after what he's done..
Michele talks about this in DR. Friends and family think that it's best for you to just abandon the M and move on. They want you to quit hurting, and they mistakenly think that is the quickest path to healing. It's not.
