Cadet, I appreciate your opinion, although I have already pinpointed my role in the breakdown of my marriage. There is nothing to "fix," but behaviors to change, and I've already long changed that.
What I realized is that I married a man who never grew up and who seems to have no capacity for compassion. There might be a narcissistic psychological component to consider, but I don't think he'll be psychologically evaluated to confirm this. I didn't know how to react to his abuse and insensitive behavior. Now I know. I'm a much better person than I used to be. And this is why I am sharing my experience with others through the writing of my book.
I am not "looking" for anyone. Love is already part of who I am, and my next romantic relationship will come at the right time. But it's still fun to look at profiles, and I will keep doing so--for the heck of it, as I said before.
Healing takes as much time as one decides for it to take. If I want to, I can heal in a moment, or I can just avoid the pain so I don't even need to heal. At this point in my spiritual journey, I'm opting for avoiding situations that will bring pain.
This is all in my book. It's a different way to look at things, so things we're looking at will change. I guarantee it.
