What about if spouse says "I miss you" or "I love you"? Reciprocating those feelings would be truthful, but I'm really in a mode where I have my feelings towards her shut down externally.
If my W said that I would faint, so nothing would be said. How about "Thank you" or "That is nice (to hear)"
Doesn't that seem like rejection to her? She hasn't said something like that, especially first, in I don't know how long. And she finally musters up the courage to say it...and my response is that?
I'm not disagreeing with you, just trying to think about it from all angles.
It would take me by surprise too, but at the same time I have been taken by surprise by so much that it wouldn't surprise me to be surprised.
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
