is standing more taboo than divorce?

[Cadet]

I wonder who is supposed to tell me "you're married," "you made a commitment."

Are you divorced yet?

I will tell you that.

Nothing wrong with having a fling but then again you are no better than your spouse or ex-spouse.

You need to heal yourself first before you enter in another serious relationship.

Are you healed?

If you are not divorced I would say NO you are not.