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Originally Posted By: mizjjd
Thank you all so much!

How nice to be reminded I am not alone in crazyville.

Fortunately, by the time I finished my shift at fastfoodland I had calmed down. Also, there was no texting last night, which didn't hurt either.

The good out of all this was to show me I'm not where I thought I was detachment wise. A smack in the head to tell me to keep at it. So I am formulating plans to become invisible.

I've decided to pretty much let the presence of the twins determine what my presence shall be. If they're enjoying tv time in the living room, then that's where I'll be. If they're not, I'll find something else to do.

I am wondering what H will have to say about this. Used to be my being anywhere BUT next to him to watch TV was most frowned upon. Even post bd, if I come up to bed before H (something I would never do pre bd, he didn't like it) he tends to follow me. Another example of the MLC contradictory behavior I guess. (I don't want to be with you anymore=STAY!!) crazy


Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.