Still struggling after all this time

[kat727]

I remember quite clearly the years of fertility issues, even between kids. I am not judging but can see how that ticking clock is making you sound.

Yes of course people are social beings. By all means get together with friends, have pot luck parties, movie nights but you don't " need" to be in a relationship to be happy. You are putting pressure on yourself to have kids and in turn are coming across as needing a man now.

You can have a child on your own. I am no fan of Angelina Jolie but when she was ready to have a child she did. We are complete on our own. If anything, another person should compliment you.

I won't lie that being a parent is the hardest job you will ever have. It is also the most rewarding. A child does need you as they are not able to do much on their own. They don't complete you either as they may not even be an extension of you. The man you are with may want kids but not be willing to sacrifice as much as they require. I want you to think about that. My ex is an only child and has no idea how to deal with sibling rivalries even now after having more than one child for 17 years. He hasn't put in the time or effort to know his kids, they comment that they don't view him as a parent just someone that want to be buddies with them.

Just some food for thought.

kat