Well, the night away went well. He really did a great job being " present" with the boys. The boys said he spoiled them, let them buy whatever they wanted at the grocery store,took them for ice cream, etc. At 11 and 9 they see it for what it is. I'm just happy they enjoyed each other. And.....I'm now a red head! . Yup, I spent my night away cutting and coloring my hair with my mom and sil. It was fun. He texted me a few times in the evening, the boys called me before they went to sleep. I went to church the next am, and heard a message preached about the effects of sin on someone's spirit. It was like hearing an explanation of H's behavior and thought process....and it's not on me to fix. Then a kind woman, leaned over and whispered "someday, he will realize how much you loved him through this time, more than when you married him, more than your best days together, you love him enough to stand alone getting nothing in return". The rest of the day was spent at basketball tournament games, and he drove us all together, and brought us home. He even answered the home phone when a friend of mine called. It took him forever to finally leave...the boys and I are on vacation and he typically likes to leave after they are in bed. This time I had told them they could stay up to watch a 9:00 show. It was amusing watching him squirm! He kept asking me if I was mad! I said not at all! I stayed sitting in the kitchen, he must have said "we'll, alright, I'm going to head to bed" five times before he finally left. He kissed me multiple times, hugged me, none of which did I initiate or try to make more of. My question is, should I refuse them?
Ezekiel37 Me 33 H 34 M 13 years S9 S11 Bomb 1/7/13 Moved out 3/7/13
. Yup, I spent my night away cutting and coloring my hair with my mom and sil. It was fun. He texted me a few times in the evening, the boys called me before they went to sleep. I went to church the next am, and heard a message preached about the effects of sin on someone's spirit. It was like hearing an explanation of H's behavior and thought process....and it's not on me to fix. Then a kind woman, leaned over and whispered "someday, he will realize how much you loved him through this time, more than when you married him, more than your best days together, you love him enough to stand alone getting nothing in return". The rest of the day was spent at basketball tournament games, and he drove us all together, and brought us home. He even answered the home phone when a friend of mine called. It took him forever to finally leave...the boys and I are on vacation and he typically likes to leave after they are in bed. This time I had told them they could stay up to watch a 9:00 show. It was amusing watching him squirm! He kept asking me if I was mad! I said not at all! I stayed sitting in the kitchen, he must have said "we'll, alright, I'm going to head to bed" five times before he finally left. He kissed me multiple times, hugged me, none of which did I initiate or try to make more of. My question is, should I refuse them?