So i went to an appointment with a C at the relationship centre where I will be attending the "managing anger course" which is part of my 180's - learning how to deal with my emotions etc. It was a screening appointment to see if I am suitable for the course.
Anyway, there were a lot of pamphlets in the reception regarding seperation for men and they all have the clear message that "you need to come to terms with the fact that the relationship is over" Its hard to read this as I feel it contradicts a little with Db'ing although the main goals of Db'ing are to make positive changes to yourself.
I find it hard to not get swept up in the dream that my wife and I will get back together. I also recognise that it could not happen until we both made changes to ourselves and then both realised we still loved each other.
The C asked me if I still was in love with my W. I found it hard to answer and that surprised me. I thought it was clear in my mind but I did not repond immediately and say "YES". I guess I am in love with the version of her before all this happened, before she was so cold with me.
This is very confusing as now I am not sure how I feel about her?
Me - 37 W - 37 M -5 T - 15
S=5 S=3
Seperated - 12/12 BD - 20/03/13 Still seperated - no R or M talk yet.
