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[Tonkarider]

I have read The Divorce Remedy which led me to this amazing website. H said he was not happy but said he still loved me September. I had gained weight & stopped riding my horse when I had open shoulder surgery last spring & was afraid for people to see me, so I became a recluse except for going to work. H had trouble with ED & I thought it was because I gained 25 lb, so We stopped anything but a quick kiss last fall. He always said he "didn't care" if I went to social events with him, but he seemed increasingly irritated with that last fall but I felt too fat to go with him.
I started going to WW around the time H had open heart surgery (Dec) & lost weight & started going to social events with him after his surgery in Jan. He still seemed unhappy. Said he needed to find a new hobby since he still can't golf bc surgery.
Things still weren't right so I scheduled a marriage counseling appt in march. We went & H announced there the ILYBINILWU Bomb. He told me later the counseler "made him" tell me. The counseler told H he had to get ready to move out & I had to get ready for him to leave. I was suicidal for a couple of weeks & stayed in bed sobbing. H comforted me but said it was not fair to me to stay. When he looks at me he feels nothing. Then he started getting angry at me and saying he didn't have to watch me & pretty much abandoned ship, except he is still paying all the bills he paid before. He said things will remain the same for the next 2 - 3 months financially except he won't be home. I am so confused.