Remember above how you mentioned that humans are social?

I know you've heard the saying, "opposites attract". In reality... in social tribes... the opposite is more likely...

Like attracts like... like kat said, above...

Like reading books? You're likely attracted to people who read books <-> people who read books are likely attracted to you

Like going to the gym? ditto...

Movies? ditto...

While you may think you don't attract needy and clingy, think of it this way...

You seem to be attracted to needy and clingy...

Good for you to leave that...

So, want to be attracted to someone who is confident, independent, interested in having children, secure...? be those things....