I did not realize you had this fresh thread going on. Just reposting from your other thread. Keep this thread going.
Originally Posted By: Kaffe Diem
lol, I think I made the 195kg typo. Still, I'm about your height and your age and am at 59kg (130lbs). Not much muscle but also very little fat. I think if you lost the 22lbs you hope to, the 180lb or so weight would be great.
Of course, that doesn't really matter. The point is, your W is using your weight as an excuse.
A WAS is generally a person who decides that they are living in an unhealthy relationship. The complaints they have are mostly valid and they do not see a way out, except to leave.
Someone in a life transition, may question their life and their M and begin to have ideas that there's more to life and they want to seek happiness by leaving the M.
Someone in mid life [b]crises[/i] is... in crises... Everything that is wrong with their life, currently and in the past, is someone else' fault. They are confused, they are not sure what they want, but they don't know what to do about it. They start doing things and hiding it from people, especially the spouse. They feel trapped and they feel empty...
Your W may not be crises, but she's certainly in transition. Yes, she's confused as well. She is seeking help from counsellors, yoga, new age reading...
If she starts re-writing your M history (pointing at only the bad, as though there was no good), blaming you (and others) for the problems in her life, not seeking help except to get validation for how she's making the right decisions... IOW, if she is not looking inward to work things out, she is quite possibly MLC.
We talk about keeping the road home "paved and smooth". If you want to save the M, if you want to spend the rest of your life M to your W, then you will want to work on yourself during this time (consider it an opportunity for your own growth) and make sure there's no road blocks that you place which could prevent her from wanting to come back, if she chose to.
I think it is really good that your W is looking inwards to solve her problems. Are there any other complaints regarding you that she mentioned, that you believe are valid and want to make better in yourself?
Still, I'm about your height and your age and am at 59kg (130lbs). Not much muscle but also very little fat. I think if you lost the 22lbs you hope to, the 180lb or so weight would be great.